tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-697487665259555876.post7504750927694762261..comments2019-11-01T22:23:10.683-05:00Comments on one life to live: Throwing my "what a 'good mom' does" list out the window!Sara K.http://www.blogger.com/profile/00252931749088878610noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-697487665259555876.post-92123971223693370642010-04-09T12:54:29.685-05:002010-04-09T12:54:29.685-05:00Thanks for sharing, Sara!! I love your honesty an...Thanks for sharing, Sara!! I love your honesty and transparency -- and gift for writing!!! I often find myself taking my kids' behavior out on myself and then immediately fall into "Kim mode" (aka: rely on yourself to 'fix' the issue at hand without calling out to God!) .... this is definitely an area that I'm working hard to correct (with God!).<br /><br />I think you're right; while each child does need to obey and respect his/her parents' instruction, the way in which the parent gets to the child's heart may look different from family to family and (gasp!), even child to child in the same family. I'm working to not compare one child to the other in my family as they are NOT the same child, AND God has DIFFERENT plans for each of them!<br /><br />I read in Proverbs 25:28 and plan to have this be the next verse my children work to memorize as I continue to get to their heart:<br />"Like a city that is broken into and without walls is a man who has no control over his spirit."<br /><br />Love you, Sara!!!!<br /><br />Kim :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-697487665259555876.post-86321625036163796952010-04-09T10:30:57.818-05:002010-04-09T10:30:57.818-05:00Chris, thank you so much for sharing that! I thin...Chris, thank you so much for sharing that! I think one of the ways God is ministering to my heart is through other moms sharing their similar struggles.<br /><br />You summed up my struggle in your statement, "I kept thinking that if I handle everything correctly, he will always behave correctly." It's good to hear from moms like you who have worked through such erroneous expectations.<br /><br />I'm also learning that kids' temperaments figure into the mix too -- so some might be a little more prone to whining & complaining -- not that that makes it OK -- but it suggests that it's not all my fault, AND it gives me vision for training self-control in him!<br /><br />Thanks for writing! :)Sara K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00252931749088878610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-697487665259555876.post-7931428636278262932010-04-09T09:39:01.391-05:002010-04-09T09:39:01.391-05:00Sara - I could have written that post myself about...Sara - I could have written that post myself about 12 years ago, when struggling with training my first son! I beat my self up about "not doing things right" consistently because my son still disobeyed! I kept thinking that if I handle everything correctly, he will always behave correctly.<br /><br />I've come a long way, now with 3 boys, but it's been a process and sometimes I still struggle too. But my failures have taught me just as much as my successes. You're doing a great job!Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13803029091790787376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-697487665259555876.post-59142719820191230562010-04-08T18:43:16.883-05:002010-04-08T18:43:16.883-05:00Thank you for the encouragement, Karen! It's ...Thank you for the encouragement, Karen! It's good to know that I'm not the only one who has walked this road!Sara K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00252931749088878610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-697487665259555876.post-36301720673214415232010-04-08T16:46:32.585-05:002010-04-08T16:46:32.585-05:00Oh, Sara, I am soooooo proud of you.
Throw it out ...Oh, Sara, I am soooooo proud of you.<br />Throw it out the window and never chase after it!<br />Spent too much time trying to be that 'good mom' and hating myself for failing at it.<br />So thankful that the grace of God was BIG ENOUGH to save me from my crazy expectations!Karen Hossinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18049412644792482270noreply@blogger.com